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Forget the Rankings: Ditching Prestige for Purpose in the College Search

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To those teens and their loved ones who have placed their worth in the hands of a college admissions officer, we are here to remind you that you are so much more than an acceptance letter.

The Square That Defined Me: Jen’s Story

My high school had its own version of the Instagram commit page before Instagram even existed – a bulletin board boasting a mosaic of senior names and the college they planned to attend. It lived in a heavily trafficked hallway where, multiple times a day,  thousands of teenagers passed by with an insatiable curiosity to find out where their peers would be going. I lived in a community that instilled the importance of my name attached to a university’s name. The small square had an unspoken meaning that carried a heavy weight. I still have my square decorated in my college’s colors.

I believed one little square defined all my hard work in high school. I applied but was not admitted early decision. In December of my senior year, I watched my friend’s names populate the board. Yale. Williams. Harvard. Brown. Penn. I watched, holding my deferral letter in my hands, questioning what was wrong with me. I waited until the spring for my square to appear, and when it did, I felt like I couldn’t participate in the prestige parade in the same way as my peers. The university name was posted, and little did I know, this core memory would shape my values, impacting my career choices and my intentions for my future family. I walked through the next two decades of my life slightly less confidently.  Looking back, my story led me to major in cultural anthropology (which I would never change); I think in part to understand people’s life stories and how the culture of one’s life, down to the smallest moments in a high school hallway, could send rippling effects through their lives.

As a school counselor, I see the weight that my students carry. While I cannot change the relentless pursuit of prestige alone, I am working to shift the narrative for future generations. It’s time we celebrated college acceptance for the right reasons. Let’s teach our students to define what is important to them and discover universities that share those same values. Let’s make an Instagram page celebrating students’ discovered values and authentic identity. Let’s skip the prestige parade. In fact, let’s protest it. 

Rolling Out The Red Carpet For All: Jared’s Story

One of the most powerful lessons I have learned as a college counselor happened in 2010 when I was working for a non-profit organization in Philadelphia.  One of my students was anxiously waiting to hear if she had been admitted early to Yale.

Together, we made a plan.

On the day decisions were released, we would use a code to share the results.  Our plan was to go for ice cream.  If she arrived at my office and said “vanilla,” I knew that the results would not be what she had hoped for.  “Vanilla” meant that we wouldn’t talk about it, but we would walk to the closest ice cream shop and feel our feelings as we ate three or four scoops.  “Chocolate” meant that Yale said yes.  We would still get ice cream, just with a little more pep in our step as we walked down the block.

I’ll never forget the day she came to my office, stood by my desk, and simply said, “Chocolate.”

I screamed. I jumped out of my chair, gave her a hug, and danced around my office, cheering. We ate ice cream and celebrated her accomplishment. She was my first student to be accepted to an Ivy League university.

The lesson came less than 48 hours later.

One of my other students popped by my desk.

“Where’s my ice cream?”

“I’m sorry, what do you mean?” I replied.

The student reminded me that she had been accepted to the junior college in our area the week before.  She asked why she, too, didn’t get hugs, cheers, and ice cream. I felt so small in that moment, deservedly.

That day, I learned a powerful lesson, one I share with my graduate students every year. I now roll out the red carpet for every student. Every achievement matters.  We shouldn’t only applaud our students when they are accepted to colleges that society has deemed “prestigious.”  It’s time we shift the narrative and help our students see they are worth much more than an acceptance letter. 

Reframing the College Conversation:  Tools for a Values-Centered Approach

“Why do you want to attend [insert prestigious school name]?” 

The student shifts in their chair and nervously looks at their family,  “Because it is a good school.” 

We press with curiosity.  “What makes it a good school?”

The student clears their throat and looks over again at their parents, “Because it’s ranked high.”

“How does the ranking support your growth and help you meet your goals more than another school?” 

Silence. There is almost always silence. 

With more than 30 years of collective experience, we have pushed students and families to answer these types of questions, embracing the uncomfortableness that follows. Often, we are led to believe that a name equals success. It’s time we question this idea and embrace what truly matters: finding a college that sparks your student’s passion, nurtures their growth, and sets them up for a fulfilling life. When we speak with families about their hopes for their students, more often than not, they name happiness, physical and mental well-being, individual growth, the ability to face challenges and solve problems, and kindness toward others. 

The college admissions process is a whirlwind. For parents and teens alike, it’s easy to get swept up in prestigious institutions’ rankings, reputation, and allure. However, this narrow focus can overshadow what really matters. Worse, the pressure surrounding college admissions has a significant and detrimental effect on mental health. 

First, we invite you to consider how parents can unintentionally increase their children’s anxiety:

1. Prioritizing results over the learning process: Focusing on grades, scores, and rankings rather than the effort and growth a child demonstrates can create pressure and undermine the joy of learning. 

2. Equating worth with achievement: Defining a child’s value by their academic or extracurricular performance neglects the importance of curiosity, intrinsic motivation, and emotional development, which are stronger predictors of long-term success.

3. College is a stepping stone, not the ultimate goal: While college is one of many bridges to a fulfilling life and career, it is not the ultimate goal. Instead of solely focusing on college admission, students should view their education as a means to set themselves up for long-term success in both their personal and professional lives. We must encourage students to think beyond their college years and consider how their education will contribute to their overall life goals and values. College is just one chapter in a person’s life story, and it’s crucial to keep the bigger picture in mind.

4. Oversimplifying with labels: Using terms like “good/bad school” or “high/low score” creates an all-or-nothing mindset that fuels anxiety and ignores the nuanced reality of each student and their learning journey.

5. Overemphasizing achievement in conversations: When academic discussions dominate parent-teen interactions, it overshadows other important aspects of well-being, such as emotional health and personal interests.

By becoming aware of these tendencies, parents can shift their approach to foster a healthier, more supportive environment that reduces anxiety and promotes the holistic development of their children.

The Values-Driven Approach

Instead of fixating on getting into “the best” school, help your teen focus on finding the “best fit” school. Shift the conversation towards exploring their values, interests, and what kind of environment would allow them to thrive.

Here’s a framework for a values-driven approach to the college search:

1. Self-Reflection: Encourage thoughtful introspection with questions like:

  • What makes you feel excited and energized?
  • When do you lose track of time because you’re so engrossed in something?
  • What kind of people do you want to surround yourself with?
  • What kind of impact do you want to have on the world?

2. Defining “Best Fit”: Use those reflections to consider their ideal college environment:

  • What kind of extracurricular scene excites you most: Division 1 sports, quirky clubs, or a thriving arts community?
  • What kind of weather and outdoor activities do you picture yourself enjoying during your college years?
  • What kind of student support services do you think you’ll need to thrive academically and personally?
  • Do you learn best through hands-on projects, discussion-based seminars, or traditional lectures?
  • In terms of size, do you see yourself at a college where you’ll recognize most faces or one where you can blend into the crowd?

3. The Search – Broadening Horizons

  • Lean into resources like Forget The Rankings:  The Values-Driven College Search to think beyond prestige and find hidden gems.
  • Embrace Exploration: Visit a variety of schools, not just the usual suspects.  Never heard of a school?  Give it a chance!
  • Do more than tour.  Sit on campus.  Observe the students.  Try to catch the vibe.
  • Talk about values with your teen.  What do you value?  How is that reflected in your career?  How do the colleges you are considering connect with the things your teen values?
  • Student Voices: Read student blogs, campus newspapers, and social media for real student perspectives on campus life.

By shifting the college conversation from prestige to values, you equip your students to make a well-informed, self-assured decision. They’ll find a place where they can learn with joy, form meaningful connections, and prepare for a life filled with purpose. 

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Jared Epler has worked as a counselor for over 15 years in K-12 schools, higher education, community-based organizations, and private mental health practices. Jared specializes in career and college counseling for youth and adults, mental health counseling, and burnout and self-care in helping professions. He currently works as a public high school counselor, is an adjunct faculty member at the University of Pennsylvania, and is a co-founder of Forget The Rankings: The Values-Driven College Search.

Jen Vallieres has worked in education and counseling since 2007, when she began her career in Jackson Hole, Wyoming. She has worked with students from preschool through high school in school settings, community-based organizations, and community mental health organizations. She works with youth and adults and specializes in general mental health counseling and college/career counseling. Currently, Jen is a high school counselor and co-founder of Forget The Rankings: The Values-Driven College Search.

Gary Canter’s February College Guy Rant

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Hey Seniors – greetings from the College Guy!

Man oh man time flies, doesn’t it? Winter’s grip has loosened here in Maine (well to be honest – it never really tightened) and those of you who applied Early Decision and Early Action have heard from your colleges by now. For those who are still waiting to hear from the colleges they applied to regular decision, hang tough. The most selective ones won’t spill the beans and tell you what’s up till mid-to-late march.

Here’s a chock-full-‘o-info College Guy Rant. Some of the stuff contained herein just may be of use to you and your folks, so take some time and read through it carefully…

I normally do not send out this till March, but given how the College Application landscape has changed, and the vast majority of students I work with have applied to many colleges using one of the Early plans, I think it’s appropriate to send this now.

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Parents: the FAFSA, bugs and all, needs to be submitted now if you want consideration for need based financial aid. If you’re not sure if you qualify I encourage you to apply. You can also feel free to give me a holler (that’s why I”m here, remember?) to discuss. You also need to submit the CSS PROFILE to the colleges your student has applied to which require it.

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Here’s an old Boston Globe article that will have meaning to those of you who have not gotten the news you’d hoped for. If you’ve had a rejection (or several), read it.

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Now lemme give you my “Chopped Liver” speech, which is what you’re gonna get from me when I find out that you’ve received decisions from your colleges without letting me know.

Many of you have been dutiful correspondents and have shared the good (and at times not-so-good) news with me, for which I’m appreciative. This is for the rest of you.

It goes like this: either you call me or I call you, or we run in to one another in the Old Port or Deering Neighborhood (that’s where I live) and I say something pithy like:

“So, what’s new?”

And you reply: “Well, I’m trying to decide between the acceptances I’ve gotten from Bard and Bates, but you know I was wait listed at Barnard and rejected at Brown, and also Beloit just offered me $26,000/year to go there, so I just don’t know what to do!”

“When did you hear all this?” sez I.

“Oh, I’ve known for a couple of weeks!” you reply.

…and I say something sparkly like: “Well, uh, duh, that’s great, like, were you planning on telling me? WHAT AM I, CHOPPED LIVER????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?????!? !!!!!!!!!??????!!!!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?”

So moral of the story here is to PLEASE LET ME KNOW WHEN YOU HEAR FROM YOUR SCHOOLS: good, bad or wait-list. I’d really appreciate it cause it helps me keep the pulse on what schools are up to from year to year, y’know what I mean?

And as an added incentive (not that you should need one), I’ve got a suggestion for things you can do if you get wait listed. Briefly, it’s an attempt to appeal the decision (without begging or getting all undignified), to make sure they didn’t mix you up with someone else, to let them know you’re still interested and to score some extra points toward them potentially taking you off the wait list and offering you an acceptance down the road.

Does that happen often? To be honest, no. But over the years I’ve seen more than a few qualified applicants successfully come off a wait-list after showing the school in question some love, desire and hustle. If you should get wait listed (or if you were deferred from early decision or early action) give me a holler and ask me about the “waiting list appeal”. You may still have some moves to make.

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Now for those of you who haven’t yet heard from some of your schools don’t get all nervous. Take a deep breath and….relax. The most selective colleges like to take their sweet time, and they’ve been known to keep you in suspense till the middle or even the end of March to send out their decisions. So take a chill pill and keep the waiting game going…Concentrate on something else, like the upcoming baseball season. Um, or your physics homework.

It should go without saying (though I’ll say it here anyway) that if you haven’t heard from a college you’ve applied to and you never received confirmation from them that they received your application, you need to call that school and ask what’s up! Sometime things get lost or mis-handled, and you don’t want to find out in May that your folder got wedged between file drawers or your application got mislabeled and lost in cyberspace.

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THINGS TO DO WHEN YOU’RE ACCEPTED BY A SCHOOL

When you do get a letter of acceptance, you should follow a standard protocol something like the following:

1. Feel good about yourself, say “hip hip hooray”

2. Read the letter carefully, take note of grants and scholarship awards, invitations to attend accepted student programs, and requests for deposits (check out what I have to say about this further on in the rant).

3. Let your guidance counselor and me know.

4. Feel good about yourself again, say “hip hip hooray” again

5. Call me old fashioned, but I think it’s a good thing to write a letter (or email) to the person who signed the admissions letter (usually the Dean of Admissions). Be gracious and grateful – ESPECIALLY IF THEY OFFERED YOU MONEY!!! – and let them know how excited you are. Then assure them that although you’re still waiting to hear from another school or two, you will be getting back to them very soon to further explore their offer of acceptance.

(NOTA BENE: all schools MUST give you till April 30th before non-refundable deposits are due and you make your final decisions. No rush here – don’t let yourself feel pressured)

6. If you’ve been in close contact with coaches, professors, other “pen pal” types at the schools which have accepted you, let them know the good news as well.

7. When you get accepted by your safety schools do the same thing (it’s good to be nice, and one never knows) and as you thank them you might delicately ask if they have moolah for you.

8. Continue to feel good about yourself, lord it over younger siblings, particularly the annoying ones, and remind your parents that they won’t have you around much longer so now’s the time for them to ply you with movie tickets, nice gifts and later curfews. Try saying “hip hip hooray” within earshot of them – they’re bound to be moved!

9. PARENTS TAKE NOTE: Make sure your financial aid applications have been received by each school and you’ve responded to any additional requests for information they may have made. Oftentimes these requests are in your students’ on line “portal” at the college’s web site, so make sure your student is properly registered at each of her schools and is checking there often and carefully. Follow directions and call financial aid offices for help if needed. If you’re confused or in a bind, give me a holler and I’ll try to help out.

Oh, and don’t let your senior manipulate you in to doing something foolish like increasing his allowance or taking the family van to see Boy Genius in New Jersey…expect her to try though!

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Here’s a few important reminders to parents about paying for college and financial aid (and merit aid):

Within a week or two of getting an acceptance letter you should receive an official financial aid award (that is, if you applied for financial aid by submitting the FAFSA and, where required, the CSS PROFILE). If you haven’t received such an award letter, phone the financial aid office (not the admissions office) and ask them when you can expect to receive it.

Some schools will request that you go through a process called “Verification”. You may have to send them a copy of your taxes and another form or two they’ll direct you to. It’s annoying but not hard, and don’t be bashful about calling the school’s financial aid office and asking for clarification.

Remember, your son/daughter has until April 30 to make his/her final decision (that’s when deposits are due to the school they’re going to attend), but most folks can’t make that decision until they know what it’s going to cost. So you need to get financial aid information ASAP so you’ll know whether it’s going to be necessary to prepare an appeal for more money. Given the lateness of the FAFSA some colleges are even extending their final decision deadline to June 1, but don’t assume that unless you hear specifically from a college. Otherwise stick with April 30.

VERY IMPORTANT POINT FOR THOSE WHO QUALIFY FOR FINANCIAL AID: If you’re not pleased with the aid you’ve been given you can appeal for more. However, you’ve got to be able to make a compelling argument (meaning: you’ve got to need it, not just want it).

Each late winter/spring I work with many families who wish to make an appeal for additional aid. Get in touch with me if you have questions or want help interpreting an award letter, or composing an appeal strategy, There’s a right way and wrong way to ask for additional money. I’ll show you the right way to do it.

For those families who do not qualify for need based aid there is a way to inquire about merit aid from colleges which offer it. Give me a call if you want some suggestions.

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SCHOLARSHIPS:

Whether your family filed for financial aid or not, now is the time to be sending out scholarship applications. There are many sources of funds out there, but (sadly) most won’t give money to you. However making a time-efficient and strategic search and scholarship application blitz may not be a bad idea. Start right in your guidance office and ask about local scholarships – now is the time to be applying for them. If you’re not already registered with www.fastweb.com, sign up now.

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A FINAL POINT:

Remember that the purpose of financial aid is to fill the gap between the full cost of the school (tuition/fees plus room/board) and a family’s ability to pay and (reasonably) borrow (your Expected Family Contribution). Asking the college for more money is NOT, in my opinion, an exercise in merely “getting the best deal”, and this is an important distinction to make if you’re to be successful. If the FAO (financial aid officer) thinks you’re merely “shopping”, you won’t do as well. I tell parents to expect paying for college to hurt a little more than you’re hoping it will, but not a great deal more. If your child gets in, and if the college is a respectable one (and most are), you should have success appealing for more money once you explain your need and your true EFC. The months of March and April, when you’ve heard from all your schools, is the proper time to do this.

On that somber note, relax and enjoy the ever longer days, the NCAA basketball tournament, the impending start of the baseball season, and the wonderful and exciting changes which are in store for you in the coming months!

Stay groovy!

Gary

P.S. If you’ve read this far I suspect you appreciate all this information I’m laying out for you, despite the length. If you know of other students and their parents who would benefit from receiving my rants (particularly members of the class of 2025 and 2026 who are just starting this journey) I would be grateful if you would pass my name and contact information along to folks who may want to receive my future rants.

Thanks.

Dream School spotlights the nightmare the college admissions process has become for too many

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WGCU Public Media in Florida followed six high school students who worked hard to earn a seat at America’s top colleges – and now you can too in the short documentary Dream School.

Reported by Sandra Viktorova, the short documentary below also includes insights from various individuals who work in the higher education industry in America in order to shine light on what for too many has become the high stress world of American college admissions and the various factors that come into play when colleges assess who to accept.

While all those featured in this up close account of the college admissions process make it through in one piece, many viewers will leave wondering why these young adults had to go through so much stress and uncertainty to end up where they did.

“If things are broken at elite universities, things are broken, period.”

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Yale University, New Haven, Connecticut

If you can read only one thing this year that encapsulates the current state of life at far too many American colleges and universities, and thus, life in America, read this intense and amazing essay by writer and Yale graduate Natalia Dashan. This essay is a window into the life those chasing admission into selective colleges and universities can expect – whether they realize it or not.

More: “The Real Problem At Yale Is Not Free Speech” via Palladium Magazine

Don’t call me a Director of College Counseling ever again

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There is no doubt that something is very broken in American secondary and tertiary education. Over each of the last fourteen admissions cycles, I have helped students from around the corner and around the world navigate the college admissions process and tackle the full time of job of applying to American colleges and universities.

During this time, I have witnessed a dramatic increase in the number of students who are unaware of what makes them unique, what their goals are beyond getting into a ‘good college,’ and what actual options even exist for students graduating high school. What feels like an outbreak of complete lack of self-reflection and time dedicated to research and analysis is occurring at the same time as students are more programmed, stressed, miserable, and incapable of demonstrating what was once considered ‘college level’ verbal and written communication skills than I’ve ever witnessed before.

I can’t be a part of this madness anymore without speaking out. As I see it, three major changes need to be made in the way we educate children in this country, only one of which I have true control over as a person tasked with helping students transition from secondary education to what comes next.

  1. Starting in elementary school and continuing right through college, most students are not being taught the basics of writing, reading, and speaking English – whether these students attend public, private, or parochial schools. Students are taught to ape the style or priorities of their English teachers in order to earn an A instead of being taught how to think or communicate in an articulate, agile, and dynamic manner. I am not an English educator, but I can say after seeing thousands of essays produced by high school juniors and seniors and speaking to thousands of high school juniors and seniors that writing, reading, and speaking instruction is not being properly carried out in this country if we are to have any hope of sustaining – let alone building upon – the knowledge and attainment of previous generations.
  2. Students have little to no sense of who they are in relation to the generations of people who came before them and thus they have an increasing inability to put themselves in proper context; the result is that their college essays, whether well-written or not, read like narcissistic one-man plays, and from the admissions results I’ve seen up-close, colleges like it this way! We are doing a generation of our fellow citizens a great disservice when they can’t see beyond their own feelings and experiences, when they don’t know anything about their state’s history, and when they know appallingly little about their country’s history or the history of Western Civilization. Again, very few people in either secondary education or tertiary education seem too concerned about this, which brings me to what I can control…
  3. College is not the end all be all. In fact, for many students a four-year college experience can only lead to a lifetime sentence of debt and ignorance. Who appointed four-year colleges and universities to lord over us as non-negotiables of our human experience? All those who benefit from the higher education-government complex, that’s who. I’m done promoting this perverted ideology. Today, one can learn more valuable and applicable information on YouTube than one can learn by completing many four-year curricula on offer at America’s top-ranked colleges. Career, technical, and experiential education in all of their many forms – trade schools, apprenticeships, gap years, a paying job doing just about anything –  are the best fit for many individuals who’ve just graduated high school. We are doing a disserve to students if we provide only college counseling. We are doing a disservice to students if we only provide college and career counseling. We must educate our students to pursue their own individuality and we must expose our students to the diverse options that exist after high school graduation – from the armed forces and community colleges to gap years and apprenticeship programs. I no longer have any desire to work in a school that trumpets its college admissions statistics, name drops the elite colleges and universities its students have matriculated into, or even slaps the name “College and Career” before the words “Counseling Office” or “Guidance Office.” In all of these scenarios, schools are giving colleges, universities, and employers far too much control of our youth. Students need to be empowered to think big and dream big. That requires not anchoring high school counseling, guidance, or advising to college or career at all.

At a time when long-standing traditions and institutions are actively attacked in our country on a daily basis – mainly from those who’ve been indoctrinated by or are employed by higher education institutions – I’m going to join all those in favor of tearing asunder the part of the past that I don’t like; don’t call me a “Director of College Counseling” or “College Counselor” anymore. It’s giving four-year colleges and universities, corporations, and governments – all of which are in business and are big business – way too much power over all of us. For as long as I continue to help students and families transition from high school to what comes next, from this point forward, if you are going to refer to me as a “Director” of anything, please refer to me as “Director of What Comes Next.” “What Comes Next Counselor” also has a nice ring to it. In return, I promise to provide you a “What Comes Next” guidance experience that exposes you to the full diversity of post-secondary options. Even if 100% of my students continue to enroll in four-year colleges and universities, if my recalibrated approach to post-secondary guidance gives even one student or family pause to consider the benefits of attending a community college while working a full-time job, or pursuing an apprenticeship, or taking a gap-year, or joining the military, or getting a job as a waiter, or earning a degree abroad, or starting a business I will have earned my title as “Director of What Comes Next” and I will feel so much better about myself knowing that I am no longer a cog in the wheel of the American higher education-government complex that has for far too long entranced far too many Americans.

Yet, most of all, I will feel great for the young men and women I work with every day because once they see a four-year college or university is not the be all end all, maybe some of them will calm down, drop out of a few of their extracurricular activities, and use their spare time to pick up and read a book like Great Expectations or Candide or go on YouTube and watch for free the full thirteen installments of Civilisation: A Personal View by Kenneth Clark. There is no doubt that after doing so students will be closer to gaining a healthy perspective on life than they ever could playing America’s obscene college admissions game.

I may still be the CollegeMeister, but I will remind all with whom I work that where one goes to college (if they do at all) or where one works 40+ hours each week (if they do at all) does not define a person. If anything, the sobriquet CollegeMeister is more apt than ever because I have not just mastered the Byzantine art of getting into the world’s “top colleges;” I have freed my clients, my colleagues, and myself from colleges’ former power over all of us, and I look forward to helping others see the light. No longer will colleges be the masters and the rest of us their slaves.

University of Iowa is the Sweet Corn of the Big 10

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They say that Iowa sweet corn is knee high by the Fourth of July. Well, we say that University of Iowa has grown much taller, so much so that it’s time for Iowa Hawkeyes’ to be invited to the big boys’ table. Not only do University of Iowa athletic teams compete in the Big 10 against major powerhouses like Penn State, University of Maryland, University of Michigan, University of Wisconsin, and Purdue; University of Iowa’s students, academic programs, and campus rival its more selective Big 10 rivals. In fact, if you are looking for a SAFE and large campus in an urban area that is also filled with everything from sports teams to root for and Greeks to join, University of Iowa is likely a superior choice to its bigger name Big 10 rivals.

Tag along on our recent visit to Iowa City to explore University of Iowa up close.

Eight things I learned at NACAC 2017

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NACAC (National Association for College Admission Counseling) had its annual conference in Boston this September, and it was chock full of educational sessions, networking opportunities, speeches by respected thought leaders, and four full days of morning, afternoon, and evening receptions. While it’s always nice to get together in one place a group of people who work in one industry, there are also drawbacks to attempting such a feat (NACAC has over 15,000 individual, institutional, and organizational members from around the world). Below is a summary of the top eight things I, one of the thousands of attendees, took away from NACAC 2017.

8. It’s great to get to know colleagues from around the U.S. and around the world: I think the greatest strength of having a NACAC conference once a year is that it brings together people from all corners of the world who work in the same field. Getting to know individuals who do what I do but do so in a different time zone or different language certainly helps put things in perspective and contextualizes the work that we all do. We all enjoy unique benefits from performing this line of work and we all face unique challenges in our individual positions, organizations, or locations. I think coming together each year is an invaluable way in which to reflect on what unites us and learn from what differentiates us.

7. Boston is beautiful: Boston, especially in September, is a great place to be. Taking in the sights, the local colleges, and scenery was certainly rejuvenating as we head into another admissions cycle. Kudos to NACAC Conference organizers for picking Boston and thank you to Boston for rolling out the red carpet to so many of us. South Boston is unrecognizable from just a few years ago, and conference goers certainly must have left town realizing that far from being just an amazing college town, Boston is a city on the move.

6. I need to do more cardio training and leg workouts: The convention center was so big and the conference and its satellite receptions covered so much physical territory in Boston that I am suffering from shin splints. Being a college counselor is clearly dangerous for one’s health, as sitting in front of a computer and meeting with families all day does not provide enough time for flexing ones muscles. I feel like I did more walking in Boston than I did during a recent trip to Disney World, and that’s saying a lot. In all seriousness, I can’t imagine how hard this was on many counselors who are severely out of shape and who tried to squeeze in as many sessions and events as possible during this conference. I’m no gym rat, but I’m also not in bad shape; yet, even I had a hard time traversing this conference on foot. I hope the organizers think long and hard about how they can create a more compact conference in the future. Maybe it’s time for more virtual elements? Or fewer and higher quality breakout sessions so there is more of a common experience for all participants at the end of the conference. At the very least, I need to take more breaks during every work day in order to stretch, walk, go up and down the stairs, and generally work out so that I won’t be limping during the waning hours of NACAC 2018 in Salt Lake City.

5. Resources seem misaligned: For all the backslapping and glad-handing taking place in Boston this week, what is abundantly clear is that students are not at the center of the college admissions industry. Rather, the people who run it are: the enrollment deans, the admissions officers, the college counselors, and the vendors there to grease the skids. If students were at the center of the process, so many dollars would not be spent once each year on various groups of adults wining and dining other groups of adults. While I love my new University of Texas Austin socks, I can’t help but think that the money spent to produce them would have been better served back in Austin reducing student-professor ratios or increasing student financial aid offers. Clemson can spend thousands of dollars on a glitzy reception for conference goers each September, but couldn’t Clemson get higher quality and more diverse applicants by instead spending less on desserts and spending more on plane tickets for its admissions officers to travel out to the furthest reaches of the the U.S. and world like so many other peer institutions do? Colleges and vendors in particular need to lead on returning students to the center of this process and that means less $tyle and more substance.

4. Many speakers weren’t very impressive: Considering this is the one big shot each year to get so many admissions and college counseling leaders together, I was struck by just how little new information I learned. Much of what I sat through in a session or was told by an admissions officer during the college counselors’ fair was information I’ve known for quite a while. The issue is compounded when speakers don’t speak very well or don’t even seem to realize that the information they are sharing is pretty stale stuff. As usual, I was most impressed by many of the senior admissions deans and officers and least impressed by those in their twenties who, with all due respect, give many of these institutions a bad name. Maybe send the rookies to the regional conferences to get their sea legs before inviting them to majors? With that said, there were some exceptional newbies, but they were indeed the exceptions. Also, just because one is a keynote speaker does not make one a good speaker. I also prefer keynote speakers who challenge the audience to think differently than they usually do. The keynote speaker at NACAC 2017 was preaching to the choir. The vendors as usual were particularly a mixed bag. Many seemed to be right out of a boiler room. Others seemed simply bored.

3. The Common App keeps finding new ways to disappoint: What happens when a group of poor planners decide to invite all conference attendees to their company’s reception? Food runs out only an hour in, leaving a lot of folks crammed into a damp tent together drinking and yelling at the person next to them just to be heard. It’s disturbing to know that the ‘brains’ behind the application used by over 700 colleges and universities can’t even successfully throw an average party. Experiencing the Common App’s 2017 NACAC reception explains why and how an application that was once a true revolutionary product (when designed by the innovative and down-to-Earth team now running the Universal College App) now seems past its sell-by date. No organization or company can expect continued success when it’s running on fumes and depends most of all on its past successes/reputation. Bring in new and unimaginative people and you get relatively uninspired output on all that they touch.

2. Counselors need to stop complaining about Hobsons/Naviance/RepVisits: It seems like every day on counselor forums and in conversations by phone and email high school counselors constantly complain about Hobsons, the company that owns Naviance and RepVisits. The fact is that counselors’ jobs would be so much harder without Naviance and RepVisits. Hobsons’ booth at this year’s conference was manned by earnest and kind professionals who really helped a lot of us. I had a major problem that was time-sensitive that I never expected to get resolved, and it was resolved by a wonderful Hobsons rep in thirty minutes! That is impressive. Hobsons is not perfect, but it’s far closer to perfect than the inept image lots and lots of complaining counselors would paint for you in order to make you believe that Hobsons is a complete mess. With RepVisits integration, Naviance now efficiently and effectively accomplishes what I used to spend a good half of my job doing. This allows me to spend more time providing personalized guidance to students and parents. College counselors should be kissing the feet of each and every Hobsons rep they encounter. Show some gratitude. Thank you Hobsons!

1. The Big 10 reception was great: As much as I feel sort of skeazy for attending (and enjoying some of) these networking (supposedly informational) receptions at which colleges or organizations throw products, drinks, and/or food at attendees, I can’t help but admit, in a year of pretty weak and tasteless party planners, the brains behind the Big 10 reception did a bang up job. The food was awesome, the music and lighting were spot on (I have to believe Rutgers had a large hand in the Jersey Shore-vibe that came across as more fun than kitschy), and the give-aways were non-generic school-specific items that reflected the true personalities of these very fine medium and large institutions. Loved the dumplings and guacamole. Props.

Next year in Salt Lake!

Igniting Your Extracurricular Spark: Actionable Tips

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This is Part 2 of a two-part series. For Part 1, which details how the author found her extracurricular spark, click here

You have read my story, now it is time to create your own. Let’s figure out what you might be interested in – beyond video games, Facebook, ESPN, WhatsApp, Instagram, and/or Snapchat!

HOW TO GET STARTED?

1. Go with your gut. STOP listening to the chatter. STOP worrying about what “they” (your parents, friends, spin instructor) might think about what you want to do. If it interests YOU then it is okay.

2. Think about your current interests. Do you want to sustain them? Perhaps you are involved with scouting, or art, or music. Do you want to continue with those activities? It is fine if you do, but you need to really WANT to. Don’t stick with it just because it is easy or familiar. If you’ve been on swim team but hate every minute of it, then quit. If you have played the violin for five years and still aren’t very good – and you’ve given it a good effort – then quit. NOW is the time to quit and move on. Cut your losses. DO WHAT YOU LIKE.

3. Warning For Musicians Only: If your passion is music, and you dream of being a music major or attending a conservatory, you need to start researching that now. Many conservatories require competency in more than one instrument as well as proficiency in reading and composing. Do you homework and PRACTICE. I will write more about music in a later post.

4. Make your choice and jump in. You don’t have to become an expert, just give something a try. By “give it a try” I mean stick with it for at least three months. After that, if you aren’t having fun, try something else. No one is keeping track. Of course there are exceptions to every rule. If you choose to take up some super technical sport or difficult instrument, it may well take more than three months to start enjoying it, but you get my point.

WHEN TO GET STARTED?

1. SUMMER is a great time to explore your interests. There are all sorts of camps and workshops and programs geared towards getting teens excited about everything from medical research to writing the next great novel. Summer is also the time when employment opportunities abound, and don’t overlook those chances to volunteer. Colleges aren’t looking for students who take the summer off. Make good use of that time to learn more about yourself.

2. The next best time to try new things is at the beginning of the school year. Create a new you. Join a new club. START a new club.  Get involved in a community project at a deep level. Let’s say that your school’s Key Club does one of thosse Rise Against Hunger programs where everyone gathers to package up thousands of meals. If that sort of helping activity is interesting to you, make a point of seeking out the organizers. Ask them how you can get more involved. Find out how to help organize this type of event or sign on with the organization itself. There are countless opportunities to help out on a deeper level in your community.

EXAMPLES

Maybe theatre is your thing, or dance, or music. Instead of just joining the band or trying out for the play, take a stab at stage managing, or lighting, or sound. Maybe you want to write or direct or choreograph? You will be shocked at how welcoming and encouraging teachers and community members will be when you propose your ideas. Most will jump at the chance to help you. Besides, what’s the worst thing that can happen? That they say no. You will be no worse off than you were when you started! If someone turns you down (and they will), simply thank them for their time and move on. Don’t hold grudges or burn bridges though, because in all likelihood the reason for them turning you down had nothing to do with YOU, and they may be able to help you in the future.

Maybe sports are more your thing, and you are involved at the varsity or club level. First of all, read my blog post on athletics. Then if you are STILL involved at the varsity or club level, find a way to double dip. In other words, since you are already at the pool or gym or wherever, find a way to further your interest or passion in the sport beyond your training. Maybe you could help coach younger kids? If you are interested in pre-med perhaps you could shadow the athletic trainer or help him or her organize his or her space or maintain the weight room? Maybe you could learn more about exercise science or nutrition? If you are interested in training and/or nutrition, try to expand your interests so that they are not totally self centered. Explaining how you got yourself to 14% body fat will not make you jump off the page, but showing how you developed an eating plan that helped the team lose fat and gain muscle mass will get people talking.

These are just two suggestions. Choose one or two things that you’d like to explore (or keep exploring) and go and and DO IT. If you don’t get to sign up at the start of the year, that doesn’t mean you need to sit it out. Most clubs and community organizations welcome new members at any time. That first step is the hardest. Once you try one activity it makes it easier to join the next one. Just take that first step. You’ll be glad you did and it will help you get noticed.

This is Part 2 of a two-part series. For Part 1, which details how the author found her extracurricular spark, please click here.

Igniting that Extracurricular Spark

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I often write about developing your interests or igniting the spark. For some of you this may be all you need to start down that rosy path to passion, but for others, all that talk of interest and discovery might just be feeding your frustration.

“I have no interests,” you might be saying.

“My child just wants to lie on the couch and play video games 24/7,” you could be thinking.

I feel your pain. I too, have a more than one child who would love nothing more than to rot his brain in the supine position for the rest of his days. We won’t go there right now, but let me tell you how I discovered my own interests and passions back in the days of yore.

Every person has a different spark.

When I was eleven, I loved horses. This is a typical girl thing, right? Every Christmas I placed the word PONY first and foremost on my Christmas list. I begged for riding lessons, I had a collection of Breyer horses complete with barn and tack room. The summer after fifth grade my mother signed me up for summer camp at the Pony Palace Riding Club, which would involve a week of 9:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. riding and horsey-ness.

Two weeks before pony  amp, I developed appendicitis. Post-surgery I was forbidden from any rigorous exercise for six weeks. SIX WEEKS. Luckily the Pony Palace Riding Club owner was a shrewd as I was desperate and she agreed that I could perform “light barn chores” instead of the more vigorous riding elements of the camp. I spent five days mucking stalls, bathing and grooming horses, cleaning tack, and measuring out feed. I saddled everyone up at the beginning of the day and put everything away at the end. I learned more about what goes into caring for horses – and what comes out of them – than I ever could have by simply galloping around the ring, and I loved every second of it. I spent most of my middle school years mucking around (literally) at that barn; I earned my riding lessons and hauled more manure than I care to remember, but just being around those animals was enough for me.

Fast forward to my high school years. Was I an equestrienne? No. Did I own a horse? No. Was this going to be my life’s work? No again. So what was the point? Working at that barn taught me all kinds of things. I was responsible for the well being of more than one relatively expensive living creature. The horses, and their owners, depended on me; and though I knew that I was never going to be a champion rider, I did know that I would always want to be around animals. The connections I forged at Pony Palace helped form my interest and passion for animals and the outdoors.

During my summer vacations in high school I worked as both a lifeguard and camp counselor. I started as a junior counselor after ninth grade and by graduation I worked my way up to being the Director of Aquatics. I needed to keep more than 500 campers from drowning each day, and I did not take that responsibility lightly.

That passion for the outdoors led me to try rowing as a sport. I went to a boarding school in New Hampshire that happened to have a large rowing program. When I tried it in the spring of my freshman year, I happened to be pretty good at it and was the only freshman (thanks to an upperclassmen getting suspended) to make the varsity second boat. For the next four years, rowing, even though it only took up a dozen weeks of my year, was my favorite thing about school. We did well as a team, we got some decent recognition, and I ended up at a Nationals after my junior year. That DID help me get noticed by colleges, but my passion for rowing also helped me make lifelong friendships. It taught me how to connect with my adult coaches who also helped me along the way.

Rowing is the ultimate sport in terms of teaching stick-to-itiveness. So it wasn’t so much about my talent as a rower, in fact I am very small for an oarsman, and at 5’5″ I wound up coxing in college. What rowing instilled in me was the knowledge that I could be passionate about something. Just like that summer at Pony Club, I could use my time rowing to remind myself that there are some pretty awesome moments in life, and you just have to keep trying for them.

As a senior at my school, you had the option of completing an Independent Study Project (ISP).  I still loved animals so I came up with the crazy notion of doing my ISP at the Los Angeles Zoo as an intern zookeeper. I wrote my proposal and sent it off, never imagining that it would work out. Lo and behold, the folks at the zoo cooked up an amazing program in which I could work on all of the various animal “strings” and also take the volunteer docent course at the same time. It was my dream come true.

Long story longer,  there isn’t any set formula for finding or pursuing what interests you. My path certainly was unpredictable and a little non conventional. Did I end up as a veterinarian or Olympic rower? Obviously not, but that wasn’t the point. The point was that I followed the things things that interested ME. Not my parents, not my friends, ME. The key to getting noticed is to discover and follow YOUR passions and interests.

If you are a parent: I am sure that you can think back on your journey to adulthood and come up with your own version of the road that led you to where you are now. We all take a series of steps – and missteps – as we shape our lives. What is important for your child (or you, if you are the student) is to discover what INTERESTS them. Let their interests lead the way. While you’re at it, let their talents lead the way as well. While there is much to be said to sticking with a project (or lessons, or whatever) there is NO point in forcing a child to continue in an activity for which they have no real talent or passion. There is no use in continuing with the swim team or flute lessons if every practice session is a battle. Let them move on. I realize that you may have invested a lot of money into that particular activity, but I urge you to cut your losses. If your child doesn’t love it by the end of middle school, let them find what they do love.

My own two daughters started off in elementary school with the violin and the cello. They did the whole Suzuki thing. They learned to read music (sort of). I forced them to practice. We went to recitals. I kept them at it through middle school, by which time one had discovered chorus and the other soccer and track. They loved their new activities. They were GOOD at their new activities. They both hated their respective stringed instruments. Despite protestations from both my husband and my mother in law (who had only recently purchased two rather expensive instruments), I allowed them to move on.

As it turned out, one went on earn a place in the All State Chorus on three different occasions, and today she sings with a local opera company and is a paid section leader in a local church choir. The other competed at the state level in her track event and was recruited by several DIII schools. Let students follow their own path. Allow students to ignite that spark that they all have inside of them.

I promise you it will all work out.

This is Part 1 of a two-part series. For Part 2, which includes specific actionable tips about how to start igniting your spark, please click here. 

UIUC is Impressive and Endearing

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University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign is a college that doesn’t get nearly the attention that it should from out-of-state students, but with amazing programs across disciplines and a happy campus culture in the middle of rural Illinois, we have a feeling that is about to change. At least we hope so, as living and learning at UIUC exemplifies what many would deem to be the classic American college experience portrayed in popular culture. In fact, being on campus a this Midwestern public university has a retro feel about it that makes it pretty darn charming.